Monday, December 19, 2011

The elements so mixed in him...



Something very weird and strange happened today. As I came back from my school and was about to take the elevator, the security guard handed me an envelope marked with my name. What was striking in the envelope was my name and address written manually, since most of the correspondence one receives today is from banks and insurance offices with your name chits posted to it. I glanced through the neatly written letters, very familiar to me, closely. I had got a letter, that too by post and written by none other than my mentor, my grandfather. His handwriting filled me with a sense of nostalgia. The ascent up the elevator was a short flash back of memories spent in my ancestral home.

As I ascended the elevator, what struck me was the sheer simplicity and ingenuity of the man who has seen the world changing around him so fast that his thoughts have stuck in time. There is something amazing about the man who happens to be my friend, philosopher, guide and grandfather. Lovingly called DADDY by all his grand children and students, he is a man of tremendous energy, talent and compassion. His is the generation that has seen the transition from telegrams to e-mails, from the invention of the telephone to the iconic I-phone, from the rickety typewriter to the suave I-pads…… And yet despite this sea of change around him, he still tries to live in the good olden days and keeps the old traditions alive, perfectly aware of the modern means around. He still uses the same old type writer to type letters ignorant of the internet technologies. He still walks an extra mile to go to the post office to buy stamps, postcards and post letters to all his loved ones and friends. Surprisingly, he still waits for seven days for his letter to be delivered and getting a reply, which he seldom gets. What he gets in return is a phone call in reply as things have changed for his forbearers. After all who has the time to complete the daunting task of writing and posting a letter when it can be done within a second through an e-mail?

I still remember the day when I once explained him about the world of internet technologies. There was a sense of disbelief in him about the pace of change. He was full of questions like a 5 year old and could not believe how the written word can travel miles with the least of efforts and time.  I had a hard time explaining the procedure to him and was obviously annoyed. But then I remembered how he had taken the stringent pains to teach me the rules of grammar as a kid and felt ashamed.

He was totally amused to see his 6 year old great granddaughter use an I-phone deftly; He got to know of the telephone when he was 25 years old and he could not believe his ears. Once his friend from the Delhi visited him and asked him to come there for a job. He asked him to call him before coming and gave his office telephone number. Daddy walked 5 miles to go to the nearest telephone center. He dialed the number at least 10 times but in vain. Frustrated, when he was about to leave, the man at the counter came and laughed at him and said, “You don’t even know how to operate a telephone!” Daddy felt ashamed. He was first dialing the number on the phone and would then pick the receiver to say a hello. And today his great granddaughter can perfectly operate the most complicated gadget in the world.

Technologically challenged he might be, but he can still give a run for their money to the modern generation. He can walk miles without getting tired. He might be Indian by birth, but he has the etiquettes and mannerisms of a true Englishman. He has an ornate love for the English language due to his English bosses at the news agency where he worked. Initially hired as a mere typist, he went on to write for the leading news papers of the world. He has perfected the language and gets immense pleasure to pass it on to others.  I remember how much we used to detest going on holidays because the moment we used to come back, he would ask us write a travelogue.

Teaching is his passion and he has kept it noble. Post retirement, he took a teaching job in my brother’s school. Surprisingly he has never charged a penny and feels that teaching loses its sheen when sold. During the course of his teaching career, he has offered help to hundreds of weak children. He loves to give private classes free of cost which annoys my granny to the hilt. The poor man bears all the grunts and taunts of his wife but the satisfaction which he derives out of the grades his students get, justifies all. After all, in his own words, “The end should justify the means”.

At 87 today, most of his time is spent in the company of his best friends – books & news papers. He is a non-smoker and a teetotaler. He follows a strict vegetarian diet and has not tasted tea or coffee for the last fifty years. Except for his meals, he does all his daily chores by himself, from washing clothes to ironing to buying goods from the market. To all the people known to him, he is a pinnacle of knowledge, love and sacrifice. What more can I say about this man. Words fall short when one gets to talk about daddy.

 Sadly, he has reached the stage in his life when he looks an alien to the outer world. Some of the new generation laughs at him for his old ways. He is forlorn and craves for company. He reminds me of the stage of a pantaloon where the world has become too wide for his shrunk shank. In him he has drowned an era, in him he sees a hope for future.

Shakespeare must have him in mind when he wrote, “The elements so mixed in him, that nature one day might stand up and say to all the world. THIS IS A MAN….”



Thursday, October 6, 2011

Why Malice towards Ravan once and for all?

Why Malice towards Ravan once and for all?
As the popular message goes around, Dussehra is a reminder of the consequences of fooling around with somebody else’s wife. True indeed. Since time immemorial Ravan has been paying the consequences of his deed. He is being immolated, thrashed and laughed upon endlessly. He is being made the scapegoat of venting one’s anger and ire. Year after year he is humiliated with his effigies burnt amidst much fanfare.
The point to ponder over here is does he deserve all the treatment which he has got? In the times where people like Kasab get to live a luxurious life in prison and law attorneys arguing that capital punishment is inhuman and barbaric, why Ravan gets to live with his crime forever?
Even the law says that you cannot punish the culprit for the same crime twice. Why is his crime being freezed upon and punishment fixed for good?
If we leave Ravan aside and talk about Kumbhkaran and Meghnath, are they paying the price of being loyal to their king and country? Would they have been revered if they would have chosen to betray their homeland and chosen to aid with the almighty? If that is the case then why is Vibhishan still termed as a traitor?
As the story goes, during the war between Ram and Ravan, Kumbhkaran was awakened from his slumber and was given the orders to fight against Ram on the wish of his elder brother. Being a visionary he had foreseen the future that they would have to pay a heavy price as Ram had divine powers. When he tried to convince his brother for the same he was laughed upon and termed a coward. In the end he had no choice but to succumb to the wishes of his king and senior. He dutifully did what was expected out of him. Does his action deserve the kind of dishonor from the present generation for whom the ideas of obedience and loyalty have gone to the winds?
It is ironic that if we ask the youngsters to tell who was Vibhishan and Meghnath, 50% of them would be blank. But when it comes to pelting stones on someone’s character, they leave no stones unturned. They might not know who Ravan was, but they still love to throw stones at him and have their share of fun. Isn’t it hypocrisy at its zenith?
With changing times, many notions and beliefs of religion are changing. The rise of atheism and modern thinking has made the people question the age-old practices of religions. The beliefs are challenged and reformed. It is high time to acquit our very own Ravan and give a character modification as he was also a great scholar and a spirituous man. So much so that Ram asked his younger brother Lakshman to obtain Ravan’s “words of wisdom” when the vanquished king was nearing his death. He deserves his share of penance and reverence for his knowledge and wisdom.

Monday, June 7, 2010

Mahashweta

Keats once wrote, “A thing of beauty is a joy for ever. Its loveliness increases. It will never pass on to nothingness.”

While writing the above lines, the poet seemed to take a deliberate poetic licence and chose to ignore the human angle of life. The fact of life says that man has always been in pursuit of beauty. He wants a pretty picture of everything that is around him. And when this beauty turns into ugliness, he discards it with scorn and prejudice. Time is the greatest destroyer which ruins everything, be it love, affection or relationships. And beauty never remains forever. It fades with time. And so the liaisons attached to beauty.

‘Mahashweta’ is a hard hitting novel on man’s obsession with physical beauty. Whatever we may feel and love to say that beauty is not just skin deep, the fact lies that external beauty has always been dear to the human eye. A tale of love and betrayal, the novel talks about the journey of pretty and charming Anupama, whose life seems to fall apart when she develops leukaemia.

The protagonist hails from a modest background completing her education with the help of scholarships. She bumps into Dr. Anand and what a pretty picture she turns out for him. His rapt admiration for her beauty makes him forget all the odds to propose marriage to this poor girl. But Anupama’s fairy tale marriage suffers the first setback when she discovers a tiny white patch on her foot. Things start to fall apart. She is abandoned by her in-laws and her insensitive husband and left alone to survive in this merciless world. She wonders how a tiny white patch can make her lover turned husband to forget the eternal vows of love for her.

Being a woman of substance, she decides to fight back. She realises that her life is her own and she has to be responsible for herself. Slowly she makes her way into the fast paced life of Mumbai and paves an identity for herself as a Sanskrit lecturer cum social worker. Life seems to move in the right direction for her when again she bumps into another medico in her life. Friendship grows between Anupama and Dr. Vasant and so do the white patches on her skin. It is to be noted here that even the writer has deliberately avoided the white patches from appearing on her face. May be she wanted to justify Dr. Vasant’s attraction for her (another indication that physical beauty is indispensable when it comes to the so called greatest sentiment called love). Dr. Vasant’s marriage proposal to Anupama despite knowing her skin condition and the fact that she was never to recover from it seemed to be too filmy. And so was Dr. Anand’s recognition of his guilt and his effort to re-enter Anupama’s life.

The best part I loved about the book was Anupama’s admission of her state. She learnt her lesson the hard way that nothing is permanent in this word. Even love doesn’t last forever. Initial sparks fly off when one is faced with harsh realities of life. The sooner the white patches would grow over her face, the sooner she would be further scorned off by her loved ones. This makes her choose a life of reclusion from relationships and dedication to the service of humanity. She refuses to get entangled in the same circle of husband and family. Now she aims for a different path sans any love and further possible prejudice. The emotional maturity of Anupama is beyond comprehension when she refuses to complicate her friendship by getting married. She eventually decides to live her life as the original ‘Mahashweta-the white one’ but this time her fate was to keep her separated from her ‘Pundarika’ forever.

The title of the novel has been taken from ‘Kadambari’, a romantic novel written in Sanskrit by Banabhatta. The touching story of the brave girl will surely move your heart to pieces. It will urge the people to show empathy towards the people suffering from leukoderma.

Sunday, January 17, 2010

Gently falls the Bakula

TUM NE TO AAAKASH DE DAALA,
MERE NANGE PAIRON MAIN ZAMEEN HAI.
PAAKE BHI KYU TERI AARZOO HAI,
SHAYAD YAHI ZINDAGI HAI.

The lines summarize the feelings of the protagonist in the novel “Gently falls the Bakula” by Sudha Murthy. A beautiful story of a relationship that slowly falls apart with time. A marriage that loses its spark when ambition and success take their toll. How expectations can affect love and commitment.

The story revolves around Shrikant and Shrimati who, once school mates in a small town of Hubli, go on to be husband and wife. From being competitors in the class, to good friends, then life partners and again strangers in the end, the story moves on the lines of Shrimati’s journey of life. The bakula flower is the symbol of their love and the title signifies the breaking of this relationship and bond with time.

Shrimati is a sensitive human being. She portrays the typical Indian woman who sacrifices her career in lieu of a happy family life. She marries for love but her love turns to dust. The novel talks about an unspoken truth that love fades with time. It dies a slow death when it faces the harsh realities of life. Often we ignore the people we love so much and tend to take them for granted. We do not realise that a single act of insensitivity can leave a deep scar in a relationship. Srikant’s callous attitude about his inconsiderate mother and her attitude towards Shrimati leaves a deep hurt in his relationship. To add to it, his unresponsiveness makes a void that slowly becomes impossible to be filled with time.

As for Shrikant, he plays an ambitious bright young man, in pursuit of his dreams. Success is addictable. The ones who get addicted; go for it even at the cost of love and family. It is here when ignorance becomes a habit and not knowingly, one becomes a victim of it. One can relate the character of Srikant with most of the successful people. The people who achieve everything in life at the cost of relationships. People who become machines with time, incapable of thinking about others who have equal share in their success.


It makes us question reality. Does love really exist in this world? I have seen the greatest of relationships breaking with time. The deepest of emotions losing their spark and shine. Change is the essence of life. People change with time and so do relationships. If I would have written this review 10 years back, it would have been totally different. My heart would have definitely ruled my mind. But my perspective has changed today. Experience and age enable you to look into reality with a broader spectrum.

One thing which I did not like about the book is the age old norm of wives cribbing that their husbands do not give them time. When will the Indian woman grow up? There is a world beyond husbands too. Srikant being a broad minded person gave all the liberties to his wife. She was free to pursue her studies and career. She had money to spend at her discretion. She was not living with her in-laws. She had the independence to go on a historical tour with her professor. How many women get such luxuries in life? And yet the only thing she craved was her husband’s time. Something I could not relate to. The end seemed to be an exaggeration too. Infact, if she would have wanted to go to US for her career, her husband would never have forbidden her to do that.

Overall the book is an interesting read. Sudha Murthy’s narration is very simple and the book catches your interest right from the first chapter. Finally the novel gives the moral “Relationships are easy to get into, but difficult to nurture. A bit of time, perseverance, selflessness, patience and care is all  it needs to preserve them.”

Thursday, January 7, 2010

Reality shows- Glitz, glamour and glory

Reality shows are a common phenomenon on TV these days. We come across a one on every possible theme. Instant fame and stardom make the people and celebrities going to an extent of taking their most private decisions of life like marriage on celluloid, thanks to the euphoria created around them. Public Swayamwars, girls trying to woo their prospective mothers-in-law, celebrities trying their hand at baby sitting are the latest additions apart from dance shows and music competitions. Several youngsters aspiring to be popular come on the show for a multitude of reasons. Talent hunt seems to be the most popular one.

Reality shows are a shortcut to success. It is a huge platform for ordinary people from all walks of life to showcase their talent. Instant fame and recognition have made these shows very popular. Once you get on the TV, you become a household name instantly. India is not far behind in the number of reality shows mushrooming in every channel of television. Viewers have a lot of choice in terms of shows. Reality television came to India as a welcome break for the audience which had become tired of the never ending saas-bahu sagas. The most watched reality show started on MTV featuring Cyrus Broacha confusing his victims in utter bewilderment on MTV bakra. KBC and Big Boss followed suit and became instant hits.

While the list of reality shows is long that have come and gone or come and stayed season after season, their voyeuristic draw is beginning to fade. As a case in India, when a thing becomes popular, people tend to over do it. The trend of reality TV is on the brink of a collapse. The reason being an over dose of reality. There are all kinds of shows made on every possible theme which actually make a mockery of Indian sensibilities. There are shows that boost about having a glimpse of your previous birth while others talk about bringing out your darkest secrets in front of the people in order to gain TRP's. There seems to be no end to their creativity with newer concepts being introduced which make us question reality in itself. They are surviving on sensationalism rather than reality.

Reality shows have also become a means of peeking into the private lives of celebrities. Moreover, most of these shows are scripted and do not show the truth. The fame of reality show winners is also short lived. They are not able to live their moments of glory for long. They wipe away from public memory the moment the show goes off air.

It is time that the producers realise this fact that the Indian audience has become very choosy in terms of TV shows they watch. The ouster of drama queen Ekta Kapoor from the stage which she once reined is a fact that cannot be overlooked. Also is the easy availability of unlimited foreign channels provided by satellite television, the audience’s taste has remarkably changed for good.

Tuesday, January 5, 2010

Gulzar - The best

Mujhko bhi tarqeeb sikha koi yaar julahe,
Aksar tujhe dekha hai ye tana bunte,
Jab koi dhaga toot gaya ya khatam hua,
Fir se bandh ke, ya sira koi jod ke usme aage bunne lagte ho,
Tere is tane me lekin ik bhi ganth rahe buntar ki,
dekh nahi sakta hai koi.
Maine bhi ik bar buna tha ek hi rishta,
Lekin uski saari girahen saaf nazar aaati hain mere yaar julahe,
Mujhko bhi tarqeeb sikha koi yaar julahe.

Monday, January 4, 2010

Three hours of distress

All of us must have given an exam at some point in our lives. EXAMINATIONS have always been the most dreaded word for a student since time immemorial. I remember how much I used to crib over them and detest my teacher who would be roving around me giving a reminder of every second ticking. My heart knows how much I envied her. But the tables have turned today. And alas! The grass did not turn out to be greener at this side of the fence.

My stint as a school teacher has one thing that brings the hell out of me. It is the scare of a three hours long exam duty. Believe me, it is the worst job in the world where you do not do anything. Take unaccountable rounds of the room, try to be as vigilant as possible, endless rounds of distributing sheets and counting every minute on the clock. Three hours of unimaginable torture and boredom. Surviving this time is an atrocious task.

Three hours is a long time. Think about the number of things you can actually do in this span. You can complete a movie in 3 hours. You can listen to 36 songs. You can read 5 magazines or complete the Alchemist. You can surf, chat or reconnect with your friends. One can reach Mumbai from Delhi in three hours and even a T20 match ends in this time. But what do we do? Nothing. Roam around like an idiot without sitting for a moment, try hard to keep focussing on your target or else find something interesting to kill time.

Here it is very remarkable to know what other teachers do in their slotted three hours of agony. We actually have the honour of having the most versatile teachers in our school. So I decided to watch them furtively, trying to interpret their state of mind. Believe me, my observations were mind blowing. I noticed that some fellow colleagues consider this examination duty a golden chance of scoring some bonus points for themselves in the school. You must be wondering how? Well they have a clear cut agenda here which is to catch a student cheating. The higher the number of student one catches, the higher the incentives one gets in terms of being termed a more dedicated teacher. Some of them have a funda which goes like – chill during the session, don’t bother much on the academics, go slow with the syllabus but be extra vigilant during the exam. Catch hold of your 2-3 preys and enjoy the tag of being the most diligent teacher for the rest of the session. Amazing people and their incredible beliefs.

It is notable here that if you happen to have the company of a fellow colleague during your invigilation duty, life seems to be on a roller coaster ride. Not because it relieves your work, but actually for another reason. Ask me why? I might sound very sadist here but I love to see a feeling of comparative misery in the eyes of my colleagues.

I recently had this experience of giving an exam again. And believe me, it was not as dreaded this time as it used to be earlier. I was ecstatic on having the luxury of sitting in an exam for full three hours and derived pleasure from the suffering of the invigilator. I had a hard time to complete my allotted time in the exam as I hardly knew anything but still, I made it a point that I was not going to leave the exam hall before the stipulated 3 hours. Somehow my masochistic drive did not allow me to grant him the liberation of shortening his allotted hours of distress. I sat their solely because of the sake of the invigilator. He had to live through his 3 hours of hell.

Ask my heart, giving an invigilation duty is the worst torment in the world and can well be deployed as one of the persecution techniques in prison cells. Rather than putting a culprit to prison send him for an exam duty instead. I bet, he will never be an offender again. It is my fate that this kind of harassment continues and will continue to be legal in India till the time I choose to be in this profession. So the next time you go for an exam, have some clemency for the one standing on the other side of the desk. One poor creature known as the examiner.